Wednesday, 27 April 2016

How to deal with sleep deprivation

When you are expecting your first child most parents first words to you are "get your sleep in now while you can". I always used to think to myself surely it can't be that bad and I think I can handle it. But no nothing prepares you for the lack of sleep, whether it be night feeds, crying, dirty nappy's or just baby being unsettled, it hits you like a ton of bricks.





I feel like my sleep deprivation was a build up of no sleep while I was pregnant, because let's face it when its the final couple of weeks it's pretty hard to have a decent night's sleep. With making numerous trips to the toilet and heartburn I had no chance. Then on top of that if you are in slow labour and it lasts a few days you're going to struggle with sleep again.

Once I had my daughter and went home the sleep really caught me up and after I few weeks it got to the point where I honestly thought I couldn't cope. And with a mixture of baby blues I just broke down. I worried I wasn't a good enough mum and I couldn't cope, I just wanted to lie in bed and cry. Its hard as a new mum to say you're struggling and to ask for help but I found it's better in the long run to ask, whether its your mum, a friend or your partner. My mum and partner were a great help and my mum offered to look after the baby for the night and let us both have a decent night's sleep. At first I was reluctant because again I felt like I was failing as a mother, but it helped so much to recharge my batteries.

I then came up with a night time routine for Heidi and it helped with her sleeping and us to. After about 2 months she would just sleep through the night and didn't wake for a night bottle. Firstly we would give her a warm bath with Johnson's Bedtime Baby Bath, which she loved. Secondly it was baby massage time using Johnson's Bedtime baby lotion. I had started attending the baby massage classes so would do the moves I learnt each week. We would then snuggle on the couch with a warm bottle of milk and a story. Heidi's favourite book at the time was The Very Silly Sheep, I think it was the pop ups that made her giggle.

She would then drift off to sleep and sleep from around 7pm till 7am which was great.

Do you have any tips or tricks you have learnt along the way to help with sleep deprivation?


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13 comments :

  1. Like you I have found that routine is the key to getting a good nights sleep with a little one. When we had to do night feeds I used to sleep with a carton of formula so that it was drinking temperature if little one woke up (anything to not have to go down and warm the milk through!) Glad you are getting some sleep and feeling better #bloggerclubUK

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  2. I just had to realise that it does end, it is only for a short time! The struggle now is when they wake up as a one off because of sickness or something, knocks me out for the next day! #bloggerclubuk

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  3. I had it quite easy in his early days. He'd always do good chunks of sleep. Now he has teeth and keeps picking up colds. A good sleep is rare. I have found myself napping with him in the day helps every now and then! Calpol seems to help him sleep longer too! Not that I use it all the time!

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  4. I do not deal well with sleep deprivation. My advice is a trough of coffee and maybe some fresh air!
    #bloggerclubuk

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  5. Sleep deprivation is tough! We tried to take it in turns on really bad nights so that we at least got a few hours sleep and as my partner works evenings we could have extra sleep in the morning too. What an amazing sleeper your little one is now!! #bigpinklink

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  6. It's so hard when baby doesn't sleep. Nothing helped my sleep deprivation. I too became emotional & it's really tough to cope. I'm delighted you found a routine that works so well for you guys! Thanks so much for linking up with #bloggerclubuk x

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  7. Oh them early days were a killer but it does get better over time X #bigpinklink

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  8. Yes, everybody mentions it when you are pregnant, and like you say, no matter what people say, once you're living it, it can be absolute hell... I think that what you said about the baby blues and the tiredness getting on top of you, will resonate with a lot of people-I think it's really, really common. I'm glad that you asked for help, and that parents stepped in to give you a full night of sleep!
    Bedtime routines are awesome, aren't they! I didn't bother for ages with baby one, and when we hit some serious sleep issues at 4 months, I started doing one and wished I'd started much earlier! With the second baby I tried implementing one pretty much straight away!! I'm feeling really sleep deprived at the moment, as the eldest has been vomiting constantly for the last few days, and night time has been an endless round of cleaning up sick, changing his clothes, changing his bed, getting him back to sleep, only for him to be sick again shortly afterwards... As both children usually sleep through, the lack of sleep has hit me hard!! I do what you do-I ask my mum to help! She has come over today and looked after the children while I had a nap!
    Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink!

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  9. Going without sleep is the worst, I'm glad you found somethings that worked for you. I have to say when the triplets were tiny was when I suffered most, I think sometimes in sheer exhaustion I slept through their cries! They have all grown up and are non the wiser.

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  10. Sleep deprivation is horrible - I totally wish my journey was like yours as 4years in and I'm still up several times a night. When she's ill is worse! Glad you got a routine sorted and enlisted some support. Sometimes just one nights sleep can make you feel human again!

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  11. It can be so horrible and it seems to be the topic of this week's SWM posts from a lot of you so you are definitely not alone. It won't last forever it's just a tough time we can all relate and remember being in this very position. Bless you it's not easy at all. Parenting can be the toughest and most rewarding job all in the same moment. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. I have enjoyed reading your blog posts and so grateful for you linking up. I hope you will continue to link up in the next few weeks as I had the reins over to the new Share With Me hostess and continue long after linking up with her too. #sharewithme

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  12. Perfectly timed as I'm averaging 2-3 hours sleep a night right now. My 4 week old wakes every 3 ish hours (not bad I know!) but by the time I've got him down at around 6am, my 19m old wakes up. Newborn sleeps during the day, but wakes when toddler is down for afternoon nap. Sleep keeps eacaping me! Being a second time mum at least means I have the benefit of knowing this phase won't last forever. So I'm trying to live in the moment and not focus on my lack of sleep. Simply taking in the sights and sounds around me at 4am is what keeps me going. And blog posts like these!

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